Too often nowadays we wonder what actually makes good relationships. Our Facebook and Instagram feeds are full of relationship advice which can sometimes be quite contradictory and only confuse us more. We increasingly question our own relationship. Although we no longer believe in fairy tales, we still expect something magical by our side and do not want to settle for any real "partner". We are told that once we have found the "right" person everything will feel just right and we can finally relax and enjoy. Many people continue to search endlessly to find this “right" person. Of course all relationships normally start with a feeling, but sometimes we give our feelings in further relationship stages too much importance. Feelings are often just a result of our thoughts, our emotional state or even our hormonal fluctuations. Commitment, good communication and shared growth are the three pillars of any good relationship and at the same time provide an antidote to doubts, worries and conflicts.
Conflicts and Communication
Feelings can change with a time and also be influenced and changed by conflicts as well as internal and external factors. If there are too many conflicts in a relationship, it becomes difficult to maintain a harmonious coexistence and negative feelings take over. Good communication is necessary to be able to resolve conflicts, to explain one's own perspective to the other person and to make one's own standpoint clear. Listening is also an essential part of communication, as it shows your partner that their perspective is accepted and valued. If both are willing to compromise because the well-being of the other is important, then this is a sign of a good foundation for your relationship. Conflicts are inevitable, but they should not be seen as something negative. Through the joint search for solutions, the relationship can be strengthened, and the partners can develop a deeper understanding of each other.
Doubts and Commitment
Doubts always arise in every relationship. They are often a natural reaction of our brain to hurt feelings and thoughts caused by them. But don't let doubts overwhelm you! Relationships are not only based on superficial feelings, but on hard work and commitment. It is about consciously choosing your partner and making the relationship a priority. If you are both willing to invest in the relationship and the needs of your partner are just as important as your own, you will overcome doubts and emerge stronger from conflict situations.
Personal Goals and Shared Growth
Although partners in a relationship generally share many similarities, they are still two different personalities, each with their own desires, goals and visions. It is important to respect the uniqueness of the other person with everything that comes with it. Each individual within a relationship needs space for their own development and growth. If both partners have this space and encourage each other, they can grow as a team and strengthen their relationship. It is important to respect the needs of the other person and to enable them to support each other. Similar to plants, relationships need care, attention and time to thrive. It is important to work together on the future and support each other in individual goals and dreams.
Conclusion: Good relationships are based on work
We have heard this sentence many times, but it cannot be repeated often enough: "Good relationships are the result of hard work, dedication and love." A good relationship requires continuous commitment to your partner, open communication and a willingness to grow together. It is normal to have doubts, but they should not dominate. Because good relationships are not only based on feelings. If we focus on commitment, communication and shared growth, we can look forward to a fulfilling and long-lasting relationship.