It’s the sheer horror: You are newly in love and want to spend every free minute with your partner. But there is a problem, because there are hundreds of kilometers between you. And let’s face it: Much is easier than having a long-distance relationship. For weeks you’ll only get to see your boyfriend by facetime, so you can hold him in your arms for a few days. But such a love at a distance can also work and even be fun. We have ten tips for you on how your long-distance relationship can succeed in the long run.
1. Communication is the be-all and end-all
Even if your partner lives on the other side of the world: In times of WhatsApp, Facetime and Skype you can talk to your partner about everything on your heart at any time. It is important that you make appointments for the calls so that you two can fully focus on the conversation and not be distracted by other things.
2. Talk about the everyday things in your life!
We know it too well: There are often moments when you miss your partner like crazy and would like to fill his mailbox with sad declarations of love. But that should not dominate your conversations. Better talk about positive, everyday things or send a photo of your cereal you had for breakfast to your treasure. Tell him what you would have told him on the couch that evening, because a pinch of normality is also good for a relationship at a distance.
3. Does not cause a dispute via text messages
Having stress with your partner is never easy, but if you can’t even hear his voice, it doesn’t make it any easier. Therefore, you should never discuss text messages with him, but call him to clarify everything, because you cannot put your feelings in a mere text.
4. Talk about your future
For a long-distance relationship it is important in the long run that both want the same thing. That’s why you should talk early about how you see your future. If you hope to soon be able to move into a shared home with him and start a family while he is out for fun and freedom, then your relationship will not work in the long run.
5. Meet as often as possible
How often you can see each other often depends on the distance, the work and the money. But make sure you see each other as often as possible so that the relationship feels real but you don’t get stressed at the same time.
6. Surprise your partner
Spontaneous visits to your loved one can be great fun. Of course you have to make sure that you have time for each other so that you don’t interfere with your partner’s appointments. Call him in advance and give him a hint about your surprise visit, so he can look forward to you, because we all know: Anticipation is the most beautiful joy!
7. Show you your everyday life
When you finally see each other, you would prefer to spend 24/7 with your partner at home. But do things you usually do when your partner’s not around. Enjoy your togetherness, but also meet other friends for a beer, cook together or go to the yoga class together.
8. Use the free time alone
Even if your partner is not with you right now, you can enjoy your life to the fullest. Register at a language school, cook with friends or go to a tennis course. When you are busy, you don’t have to think about your loved one all the time and that makes you happier in the long run.
9. Brings passion to the relationship
Even if you have a long-distance relationship, you don’t have to miss out on your sex life. Phone or Skype sex should always be planned spontaneously and not for weeks. Start by saying how much you missed your partner and describe exactly what you would like to do with him.
10. Make a date for facetime dates
Dating is part of a relationship, but when you’re hundreds of miles apart, it’s not that easy. However, you can also arrange a long-distance relationship to watch a movie, read the same book or gamble against each other. It may sound silly, but it makes you feel like your partner is sitting right next to you and you don’t feel so alone anymore.