One of the biggest predictors of long-term relationship success is compatibility within multiple dimensions of intimacy.
One of these dimensions is shared interests and activities. Basically, if you and your partner like to do things together, you’re more likely to have a long-lasting relationship.
Have you and your partner been struggling to come up with such activities? Have your dates been a bit lackluster later?
If so, now’s the time to turn things around.
Read on to learn some strategies that will help you create great dating experiences that you and your partner will remember for years.
Making Great Dating Experiences
There are a lot of factors that go into making great dating experiences for couples. In general, though, if you can answer one or more of these questions with a “yes” after an experience, it was probably a good one:
Was There a Moment of Elevation?
A moment of elevation occurs when you and your partner break out of your routine and do something new or thrilling.
These moments are all about raising the stakes (doing something exciting or challenging), engaging the senses (taste, touch, sound, smell, etc.), and flipping the script (doing something outside of what’s ordinary for the two of you).
Was There a Moment of Pride?
It also helps if there’s a moment during the date when you and your partner can feel a sense of pride. Maybe one (or both) of you is able to pull off the winning shot in a game or pull ahead during a race.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be a complete victory, though. If you can give your partner praise for something they’ve done during the date, they’re like to experience a moment of pride.
Was There a Moment of Connection?
Look for moments of connection, too. Were there opportunities for you and your partner to come together and really connect with each other?
This might mean having a great conversation, reaching a new level in terms of sharing information, or even just working together to accomplish something new.
Tips for Improving Memory and Remembering Experiences
It’s not enough just to have great dating experiences. You also need to work on improving your memory so that remembering experiences like these will become easier for you. Here are some strategies that can help you accomplish this:
Meditation can help to strengthen your existing memory and improve your cognition.
Making meditation a regular part of your routine will also help you to be more present during dating experiences. This will also make it easier for you to remember the details of what happened.
Write in a Journal
It also helps to write in a journal after a great date. Get specific about what made it great. Then, you’ll be able to look back on this entry and remember the experience in the future.
Get Enough Sleep
Finally, make sure you’re sleeping enough. If you don’t get enough high-quality sleep on a regular basis, you’ll have a harder time forming and consolidating memories.
Start Creating Lasting Memories with Your Loved One Today
If you’ve been struggling to create great dating experiences for yourself and your partner, hopefully, this article has given you some ideas.
Remember, it doesn’t have to be grand or expensive in order to be special. If it comes from the heart, your partner will have a much easier time remembering experiences they’ve had with you in the future.
Don’t forget to keep these memory improving tips in mind, too. They’ll help you ensure you don’t forget any of these experiences even as you and your partner grow old together.