How to tell when the right time to propose has come
Have you found in your partner the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life with? If so, Congratulations! Finding the right partner is not the easiest thing to do. You’re certain that you don’t want to spend your life with anyone else. Now, you’re probably wondering, “So when is the right time to propose?”. This differs with each individual, so there is no magic recipe for it. If you and your partner meet the following requirements, then your marriage proposal should be answered with a big and happy YES.
Your mutual affection is on the same level
Within the relationship, you see eye-to-eye and the affection of one does not surpass that of the other. This is already the best basic requirement for your engagement proposal. The longer a relationship lasts, the more often small clashes will occur, but you are able to step back and look at the bigger picture. If you both love each other equally, the foundation for a good marriage has been created as well as a positive outcome for the forthcoming proposal.
You speak of the distant future
Are you already planning trips with your partner for next year? This shows that you and your partner are happy with your relationship and that you want to stay together for a long time. If you are already planning joint investments (such as building a house), or have even spoken of children, it’s obvious: Life should go on together. The marriage proposal is just a formality.
The concept of marriage appeals to you both
Even if the relationship is going well and it’s certain that the future will be spent together, there are people who don’t want to get married. Nowadays it is no longer a social obligation to marry, and some people can and want to do without the tax advantages. If you know that your partner is generally for a marriage, then the conditions for a marriage proposal already exist.
You know good and bad times
Especially in the first few months of a relationship, those involved wear rose-coloured glasses. Everything about the other person is great and you think you’ve met “the one”. The more time you spend together, the better you get to know your partner with all their quirks. Does your partner tolerate your “quirks” and vice versa? It is also important that you cultivate healthy conflict. Within a relationship, differences of opinion are normal, but are you both able to find a common solution to the problem? If so, then nothing stands in the way of a marriage proposal. If you as a couple have not only experienced good times but also bad, the conditions are good for a marriage. By doing so, you swear publicly that you will stick together in all situations.
You do each other good
Do you feel that the relationship between you and your partner is enriching for both of you? If you support one other in every situation, if you show understanding and give each other freedom, then you are a great couple with a working relationship!
The proposal should not have to save the relationship
Do the above points only partially or not at all apply to your relationship? If you’re in a difficult phase and want to save the relationship by proposing marriage, these are not the best conditions. The problems should be solved before you think about a proposal. An engagement should be a climax of the relationship and not an act of despair. If your partner says “yes” at this stage, it could be a mixture of compassion, guilt, and vague hope. These are not good principles for a functioning marriage. Wait and see and work on the foundations of your relationship. If you have survived this phase together, you can still go down on one knee.
Don’t be afraid of the answer “no”
Of course, you are not stuck in the thoughts of your partner and he could answer your marriage proposal with a “no” contrary to your expectations. Naturally, an answer like that hurts, but it also shows you the state of your relationship. Maybe there are issues in your relationship that you didn’t know existed? Of course, your partner has to express himself so that you can work on yourself. The “no” may not be final either and you get engaged at a later time. An honest “no” is better than any half-hearted “yes”. Take this chance to get the relationship in shape and talk to your partner without being offended. Communication is the be-all and end-all in a good relationship!